This verse is a good one to remember anytime in life but I am going to write about it from a single women's point of view with maybe some marriage opinions or thoughts. I got this verse and idea for title from a Devo. by Proverbs 31 Ministries a month ago. I could see this being true even for friendships with all gender types.
It is like "like" at first sight and then love at first fight. You really don't know a person until you have a fight with them and see how they react to it and after it. I have had fights with friends over email and other things but not face to face because I am scared of conflict. You can still get to know little bits and pieces about the other person that way too.
The question that starts the verse is a good question to ask ourselves every now and then especially when we are in or want to start a fight. We need to think about the cause before we do or say anything. Is it worth the energy and the pain? I learned that the hard way. Then the second part of the verse tells us what is really wrong within ourselves. The evil desires are at war within us.
I have honestly felt those evil desires at war within me and it is not, at all, the greatest feeling. I will admit sometimes they will bring you down in a really deep depression. Your mind will be in such a confusion state that you won't know how to get out. They mainly come about or did the last time I remember is when I first moved to AR and trying to get settled into my life here. It was really hard my first year. I wanted things done my way. I moved away from the people and state that knew me because I wanted to start a new life.
Well, guess what that was the evil desire speaking to me, making me choose the wrong answer and telling me the wrong things. I felt so wore out and in depression because both sides were at war within me. Some of you may be thinking this is silly. That cannot really happen. I am here to tell you it can. Moving to AR was also the real first time that I lived by myself and had to start making the decisions and use my time wisely everyday. I can tell you there were times I would having crying fits in my car after I did something that I didn't felt was right even if it was going to eat out with a certain type of group.
Some say it would of been my anxiety kicking in because I didn't have very good control over that then either. I wouldn't even admit that I had it or did have it after a year later. To be honest, I still have those evil desires within me but I know how to handle them better now. I take them to God in prayer and I write them out on here. I go for a run/yoga or even color or read. There are a lot of hobbies I do because they help to calm down and think what should I do in this situation. Sometimes after yoga or running I even would forget about it altogether until it came back and when it did I would do the same thing plus prayer if I remembered and if it was that bad.
All this to say that I have even learned to calm down and think before I say certain thing to my friends so we don't get into that fight, which is good for down the road. Thinking about it even, I can do those things after my future husband and I have fights about things. No human is ever prefect we just need to learn how we can handle with our imperfections so they won't make someone else stumble and fall. When we can get past that first big fight, then we feel more comfortable and even know more about the person we are fighting with. Usually, people fight because we don't agree on something and think differently and that is how God made us but we also need to realize that in a friendship or relationship we need to share things and put out our best for each other. Most importantly, towards and for God.
God would never use a fight or make his children fight for the good of themselves and people around them. We fight because we want to do the good and want to be God's best as one heart or just as God's child when in a friendship. We want God's light to shine through us all the time but yet there is always the devil trying to get into our friendships and relationships and that causes fights in the real world. We just have to be strong and understand that it is God's doing, it is the devil and we need to get over it.
I have honestly felt those evil desires at war within me and it is not, at all, the greatest feeling. I will admit sometimes they will bring you down in a really deep depression. Your mind will be in such a confusion state that you won't know how to get out. They mainly come about or did the last time I remember is when I first moved to AR and trying to get settled into my life here. It was really hard my first year. I wanted things done my way. I moved away from the people and state that knew me because I wanted to start a new life.
Well, guess what that was the evil desire speaking to me, making me choose the wrong answer and telling me the wrong things. I felt so wore out and in depression because both sides were at war within me. Some of you may be thinking this is silly. That cannot really happen. I am here to tell you it can. Moving to AR was also the real first time that I lived by myself and had to start making the decisions and use my time wisely everyday. I can tell you there were times I would having crying fits in my car after I did something that I didn't felt was right even if it was going to eat out with a certain type of group.
Some say it would of been my anxiety kicking in because I didn't have very good control over that then either. I wouldn't even admit that I had it or did have it after a year later. To be honest, I still have those evil desires within me but I know how to handle them better now. I take them to God in prayer and I write them out on here. I go for a run/yoga or even color or read. There are a lot of hobbies I do because they help to calm down and think what should I do in this situation. Sometimes after yoga or running I even would forget about it altogether until it came back and when it did I would do the same thing plus prayer if I remembered and if it was that bad.
All this to say that I have even learned to calm down and think before I say certain thing to my friends so we don't get into that fight, which is good for down the road. Thinking about it even, I can do those things after my future husband and I have fights about things. No human is ever prefect we just need to learn how we can handle with our imperfections so they won't make someone else stumble and fall. When we can get past that first big fight, then we feel more comfortable and even know more about the person we are fighting with. Usually, people fight because we don't agree on something and think differently and that is how God made us but we also need to realize that in a friendship or relationship we need to share things and put out our best for each other. Most importantly, towards and for God.
God would never use a fight or make his children fight for the good of themselves and people around them. We fight because we want to do the good and want to be God's best as one heart or just as God's child when in a friendship. We want God's light to shine through us all the time but yet there is always the devil trying to get into our friendships and relationships and that causes fights in the real world. We just have to be strong and understand that it is God's doing, it is the devil and we need to get over it.
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