Being a strong willed women is hard. That is the nice way to put it too. I really don't mind being called determined, or stubborn either. I was called determined all through my high school years but now I am strong willed. Most of the time and for most things I like being strong willed but there are some things that are hard to do in life too when you are that kind of women.
For me, the hardest part is finding a guy to date or even a future husband. Come on, when you think about it what guy wants a women that is stronger willed. What guy wants a women that can do everything or almost everything by herself? What does he have to save her from? That is what most guys think these days. That they have to save a women.
I have a totally different perspective, though, and it is I look for someone I can work beside for the Lord. That is what God really wants for His people. He wants us to be compatible for Him. Yet, women are suppose to be under them but that doesn't mean they can't have say in things.Being a strong willed women, that is hard to do. Finding a guy that will take me as I am and love me for who I am. Sometimes I think I need to become helpless and hopeless to find the right one but then I remember that people like the kind of people that they are too.
For me, the hardest part is finding a guy to date or even a future husband. Come on, when you think about it what guy wants a women that is stronger willed. What guy wants a women that can do everything or almost everything by herself? What does he have to save her from? That is what most guys think these days. That they have to save a women.
I have a totally different perspective, though, and it is I look for someone I can work beside for the Lord. That is what God really wants for His people. He wants us to be compatible for Him. Yet, women are suppose to be under them but that doesn't mean they can't have say in things.Being a strong willed women, that is hard to do. Finding a guy that will take me as I am and love me for who I am. Sometimes I think I need to become helpless and hopeless to find the right one but then I remember that people like the kind of people that they are too.
If I because the helpless and hopeless type then I will only get those kinds of guys to like me and I don't want that. I want a strong willed guy to like me back. I know I regret saying that or will someday because I can only think about how many fights we might get into from time to time. Then again, God can use two strong willed people together to move mountains for Him. I don't like seeing strong willed guys alone doing all the work for God. It is there that I feel like I want to be apart of the work too. It is there that I just want to join in and go along with the flow. It is not because I need help living but it is because I want to and think a certain guy is worth my time.
It is because I can see God moving in what a guy is doing and how God is moving in his life as well and I want to join in those thing. It is crazy how women think that being strong willed is a bad thing and we can take it overboard with not wanting to get married or have a family of our own. We could just want to work all of our lives because that is the only way we see how that strong will in us will get to work itself out but that is so wrong when you look at it through God's eyes. God would rather have two strong willed people work together in life then just one or one strong willed and one helpless. I know for me being strong willed helps me do what I feel is right and if that is to encourage my friends or future husband someday then go it. That is how God is going to use my strong willingness and He is using right now too.
If my strong willingness helps me to raise children myself by being a foster parent then be it too. I am using it for good instead of bad. I am using it for God, then for bad change. I'm not upset about it at all but I am upset that guys don't see that in woman or they see it and then they run away from it because they are scared. They shouldn't be scared of it. They should be proud that a women as some will about herself. If she didn't, then what would the world be like today? I just have to keep reminding myself that someday a guy will come along liking this about me and that I will be able to use it with him and along side him. I will admit I'm scared about the fights we might get into but now, for me, is the time to learn how to control it to where I can get into less fights with it.
Not saying to learn to stop the fights because that will never happen in a marriage but at least to, maybe, cut down on a few fights. :) If I didn't have that strong willed, then who would I be? Would I be like everyone without that strong will since I wouldn't be able to stand up for what I believe in? Would I just go with the flow and forget about trying to help people that need it? I don't want to be like that either so I like being a strong willed women and I will just have to find a guy that likes that about me too. If I don't find a earthly guy/husband, there is One that made me that way because He Loves me that way. That One is God. :)
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