Eyes are the Doorway to the Soul

        I know the title sounds cheesy but the more I work with abused children the more I think that saying is true. It give me a feeling like they saw something in me that they can trust. I see in their eyes the help that they need. You might be able to tell by their additudes or body movement or just listening or other things but for me the eyes mean so much. I didn't really think about it until these past 2 weeks.
        I would get down on their level if they were out of control and make connection with their eyes and say something sweet like "I love you" or "you are safe". What got me is when I took an elementary aged boy to the drs. I have the story on here 3 or 4 entries down but I had to make him look me in the eyes where he was getting his shots because he did not like them one bit. I felt something then but didn't think that anything would stick to that one boy especially since I don't see him everyday.
         Something stuck though. I don't know if it was being there for him through a hard time or what but he talks to me every time he sees me around. What got me thinking though was when he gave me a hug and said, "I love you" yesterday. It was a strange feeling but at the same time a sweet one. He said that he had a dentist appointment next week and he wants me to take him again. I told him, "I'll have to see what time it is." Sometimes with the children especially the older children it feels like a honor when you get pick to do something with them again by them because unlike the preschool age you know they either have a choice or can do it on their own.
           Eyes are the doorways to the soul. When a abused child can see that he can trust someone, he holds on for a lifetime and/or until he leaves again. I get the honor of doing that every night to my little preschoolers and I love it. They will either stare back at me and smiled or just stare back. When you have a gentle soul, they know it because they are children. Children, I still believe, have a strong sense of feeling/trust whether through the weather or other people. They know when to act up or when they are loved. That would be something fun to research why they know.
           The next time you are around a child I challenge you to take the time to look into their eyes and think how you feel when you look away. It will change your life for that moment or little by little. Just think isn't this true about every relationship and friendship if we can read their eyes, we are in good shape to understanding them somewhat. :)