I said this once and I will say it again. When you do not have the money to randomly spend, it is then that you want to spend it. I am going through that right now. With all this moving and starting a new job, I am low on money and have to watch it carefully. It is teaching me more self control and patience.
Money can be a stressor too even when you are single. Sometimes I think it is harder because you have no one to talk money with. No one to remind you, "hey, we don't have enough money for that." You think since it is just you then you can spend it on anything for you. You forget about the big things you have to pay for yourself and when switching jobs yourself that is the worst. I think that is the best way you can learn self control.
I have had to hold myself back from buying things that were fun things and even some needs. I had to buy cheap food and not go too far because I am trying to save gas. The hardest part is driving by Starbucks and not buying coffee. That is a lot of self control for me right there for the people that really know me well.
It is teaching me a lot of patience too. Self control equals patience. I like that saying because it is true and I'm learning that right now too. Self control teaches patience because you really have to have some control to have patience. I mean it is like saying "I want coffee now" or "I want that dress now" but you know you don't have the money so you wait patiently until you get enough money to buy it. It could be a long while and the dress could be gone by then but then that means you can spend the money on something else that you needed more or save it for something else better in the long run. I have had to be patience and wait for some things. It stinks when you notice what you need or want now when you don't have the money to spend it.
It is also showing and making me think about really starting a budget. I have thought about things, new things, that I need to get but I have to start budgeting for. I have always tried to do the fancy way of budgeting and I have had different people show me different ways but I just can't seem to stick with it by myself or get the hang of it. I might have to do budgeting the old way and that is on a piece of paper and with a pen. I was even thinking of maybe taking the famous budgeting classes in the Winter if my church are offering those classes again. I never wanted to or never thought I need to but right now it looks like I need them.
Money can be a stressor too even when you are single. Sometimes I think it is harder because you have no one to talk money with. No one to remind you, "hey, we don't have enough money for that." You think since it is just you then you can spend it on anything for you. You forget about the big things you have to pay for yourself and when switching jobs yourself that is the worst. I think that is the best way you can learn self control.
I have had to hold myself back from buying things that were fun things and even some needs. I had to buy cheap food and not go too far because I am trying to save gas. The hardest part is driving by Starbucks and not buying coffee. That is a lot of self control for me right there for the people that really know me well.
It is teaching me a lot of patience too. Self control equals patience. I like that saying because it is true and I'm learning that right now too. Self control teaches patience because you really have to have some control to have patience. I mean it is like saying "I want coffee now" or "I want that dress now" but you know you don't have the money so you wait patiently until you get enough money to buy it. It could be a long while and the dress could be gone by then but then that means you can spend the money on something else that you needed more or save it for something else better in the long run. I have had to be patience and wait for some things. It stinks when you notice what you need or want now when you don't have the money to spend it.
It is also showing and making me think about really starting a budget. I have thought about things, new things, that I need to get but I have to start budgeting for. I have always tried to do the fancy way of budgeting and I have had different people show me different ways but I just can't seem to stick with it by myself or get the hang of it. I might have to do budgeting the old way and that is on a piece of paper and with a pen. I was even thinking of maybe taking the famous budgeting classes in the Winter if my church are offering those classes again. I never wanted to or never thought I need to but right now it looks like I need them.
I am just getting at the age where I need to throw in buying some new clothes every now and then and that is a big thing I am going to add to my budget. I haven't brought myself any new clothes since college so it has been about 6 years. I am almost 30 and will be in two years so I don't want to dress like I'm 21 when "I am actually 30. I need a new closet full of clothes. It also came to mind because I have been gaining weight of the years as I get older too. I don't do the walking everyday like I did when I was in college.
I have also realized that I need to be healthier instead of non health. I do buy a lot of candy and pop when I am stress so I need another goal set in place that I can think of instead of food like getting new clothes. Something that I can use and have for a little while instead of eating it and it is gone that day. I am just getting to that age where I will need the money for more important things in life like a house of my own someday or even a pet of some kind. I don't need to be wasting it all on sweets and coffee. Hopefully, with my job now I will be okay with that because it isn't as stressful as some of my other jobs were. I can already tell that I am starting to hold back on those things.
Even that right there is a different kind of self control because I know I need to be eating healthier for my body so I'm doing a favor for my whole body and for my money issue. I really feel like God is using this hard time with switching jobs to really show me what is important. I will be honest. I was a shopper when I was younger because I would get money as gifts from my grandparents every year and of course I would save a little up every year. If not, I got what I needed from using their money they gave me instead of what I had in the bank so that money was never touched.
All this to say that it is just hard growing up. You need more things and that is something that I didn't even think about when I picked my degree or career. Being a teacher, preschool or other, just makes it that much harder to live on your own. Yet you can see that I do it for the children and the love I get and not because of the money. I can live simple and that doesn't bother me at all. I don't care what I look like as along as I don't look like I am dirt poor. It is just money in my pocket for a little while while my purpose is changing the lives of children one way or the other.
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