God Made People to Have Connection

         I saw this on a friend's Facebook page and thought it was so true espically for the job that I am in. I love the way it makes you look at attachment and the prayer at the end. I saw it when the stubborn little girl was at my job. It's crazy to even think that you are giving away a piece of your heart to a child just like you would in any other relationship. I thought at first so is it like loving your boyfriend or husband but it is a different kind of love. It is true because if the child knows that there are people out there who care enough to get attached to them and can and then they might hopefully try harder to be good for the people they go to.
   
        "People often ask how do you deal with loving a kid that might not stay with you? How do you protect your heart? How do you not get attached? Trainers warn “don’t get attached too soon, you never know what is going to happen.” So what do you do if you start to get attached? You might not expect to hear this from a trainer - but you might just need to let it happen.

God created humans to attach to each other. It’s natural if you start to care emotionally for a child you are caring for physically. Your level of attachment will vary with each child that comes into your home. Some you will feel a natural attachment to from the very beginning. With others you will grow in your attachment the longer they are with you. There are also some you won’t feel deep attachment to, which is okay too. You can’t completely control when you get attached to someone. Maybe we’re not even supposed to.

God created attachment to be a healing relationship. Kids know and feel the status of your relationship. They may have a need to know that they are (or remember that they were) deeply loved by someone. This may let them know that they are deeply lovable. This may carry them through their next placement, through their journey in life. It may teach them of God’s deep love for them.

God created humans to be attachable - knowing that it would bring deep joy and that the loss would bring deep pain. And He has a purpose for both. He may allow you to get attached to someone and then take them away - but this could be true for any relationship in our lives. As much as we try, we really can’t control loss and heartbreak in our lives. But He has a purpose for our brokenness and pain. It’s actually where we become more attached to Him. Where He can comfort our hearts like no one else can.

At some point, this is going to break your heart. This is going to be painful. Love is painful. God’s love on the cross was painful. Love requires opening your heart, with the chance it might get broken. Oh but there is such beauty in brokenness. Such depth, refinement, healing and growth. Empty vessels are the ones He can fill and use - and pour out and use again and again. God allows brokenness - in the kids’ lives and in ours. You can trust Him with your heart. And if it gets broken, you can take time to heal. Take time to grieve and let your family grieve. Take as much time as you need before the next placement.

So what do you do if you start to get attached? Just pray. Pray. Pray for the kids to know they are deeply lovable and loved by God. Pray for you and the family they are going to to love them as much as possible. Pray for God to guard your hearts as much as He wants to. Pray for Him to heal your hearts when they get broken. Pray for God to teach you what He wants to about His deep sacrificial love. Pray for your heart to become more and more attached to Him."-Carrie Henry